Never Say this to the family of a victim

If you know how I feel....

I know how you feel.
- (Was your child murdered?)
You shouldn’t feel that way.
- (Tell me how I should feel; maybe I can make myself feel the way you think I should.)
It was God’s Will.
- (If you’re so in touch with what God’s will is, ask him “why?”)
You have got to get on with your life.
- (If I get up, I’m getting on.)
You’ve got to be strong.
- (Why?)
God took him or her.
- (No, my child was murdered by an evil person. He was not taken up from a mountain top in a cloud.)
God needed him or her.
- (God doesn’t need him, if so he could make another one. I can’t, I needed him; he was my life.)
You should be over that by now.
- (There is no getting over the loss of your loved one by violence.)
You can have other children.
- (Get a grip.)
God is testing you.
- (Well, I’m sure I failed his test and he’s failed mine, too. Does that matter?)
Good will come from it.
- (How could anything good ever come from such evil?)
It’s for the best.
- (Anyone that tells you it’s for the best that your child is murdered isn’t dealing with a full deck. Tell them to get the hell away from you.)